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Time is so slow that is driving me crazy!!!

Seriously, how slow can days pass when you are so excited for a date to arrive? Well for those who have read previous posts, you may have known that I´ve been planning a trip for almost 6 months. There was also the time when I had to wait for the UK visa decision, which kept me biting my nails and having nightmares, but luckily it came with a very positive outcome.

When the good news from the visa came, I remember being very happy but at the same time wishing it was already time to travel. So now, it´s more or less six weeks to go before I can actually do this trip, a dreamed trip for a long time that is finally going to be accomplished. But these waiting days are driving me crazy, it seems that they pass too slowly, and whenever I start counting the days I feel quite desperate.

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This situation made me think of people complaining about time passing too fast, but for me right now is quite the opposite… too slow!. Maybe it is because I´m afraid that bad things could come out from one moment to the other and ruin the traveling plans (very improbable but you never know) so I just want to reach the date and be 100% sure that the trip will be real.

So what happens when you suddenly feel that time is too slow? You realize that it´s actually always like that; it is just a matter of perspective. These weeks for example, since we got the visa decision, have been so slow that I´ve never noticed that by being so acutely aware of time I could actually fill it with lots of activities, and guess what? There is actually time for everything.

So maybe it´s good to have this perspective, of time going so slow, but in order to do that you have to be able to focus on goals and deadlines and get excited by them, like I think is what happened in my case, my trip being the goal and having a deadline for starting the trip. So I think I could take this as a lesson, maybe after the trip is gone, I may need to think of another very tangible goal and deadline and get excited about it, so I can start counting the days again and feeling that time passes slow and that many things can be fulfilled on the way. I hope I make good use of this new learning. And you what do you think of this new time perspective?

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What´s not to love in this year!

Third day of 2014 and I already love this year! At first I was thinking, maybe I was just lucky, but then when I look to the day before, I realize that today´s outcomes are only the result of yesterday´s effort.

You see, like almost all other past years I made a list of resolutions. Buy my resolutions were so empty hearted or so superficial, like losing weight, eating healthy which are good actually good resolutions in themselves, but were not really my main ambitions in my life. This year´s resolution list was a little bit different, and I got inspired by a friend in this subject. Instead of writing the resolutions in my notebook or in a piece of paper that I would put in a drawer of my night table or somewhere I would not remember later,  I did it “big” this time.

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You see, I was always a little bit embarrassed of having this piece of paper in sight for everybody, and most of this embarrassment was because the resolutions were not that awesome to be widely public. I didn´t want everybody to know that I just wanted to lose weight or go to the gym; it just felt so trivial and superficial in some ways. But 2013 taught me what I really wanted to do with my life.

When my friend told me that she just read the resolutions she made last year and she realized that she almost fulfilled most of them, she felt like 2013 had been a complete success. I immediately thought that my problem was not in assessing 2013, which had been a pretty good year, but it was in comparing my last year resolutions with my status today; merely because of a simple reason: I didn´t know where the piece of paper I wrote last year was anymore and even more lame, I didn´t know what was written there anymore… probably something about diet, gym… in few words BS…

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So this year, I sat down the 31st of December, I wouldn´t let the 1st of January come without having this settled down. I clearly wrote down my goals, very specific ones for my dreams and the sort of life I want to have, on a piece of cardboard and glued it to the most visible place in my room. You see I would never do this in my room, you know I´m all about decoration and my room is proudly one of the most beautiful rooms that exist in the world, yes! I feel very proud about that… (I will post some pictures later… I promise). I also assigned every day of the week for a specific purpose, like today for example is “Friday Blog Day”.

I never started a year like this one before, I feel so determined, well driven, and I constantly smile whenever I remember that this is 2014, my year! This is the first year ever that I haven´t made a  mistake when writing down my first year date; you know how you tend to make mistakes the first days of the year and you still write last year ‘year? Well not this time! because I´m completely conscious of this year.

On the third year, I´ve already got very good results for one of my goals for this year, So 2014 you are about to witness my success!!!


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What you should know before 2013 ends…

So here I am, approaching 2014, and believe it or not, I´ve never been more excited to start a new year. Usually, I would feel a little bit sad for the year almost gone, and I would wonder why it has gone so fast and if I took good advantage of that year, but now I don´t care, I really want 2014 to start!  And I still think this has been a good year, productive and full of good achievements. But I feel like the results of 2013 will still be shown in 2014, so that´s what I´m so excited about.

This has been one of weirdest years; I have lost touch with many people and for some reason my closest friends have become distant.  But believe it or not, it has been good for me, because this sort of loneliness has made me realize lots of things, from the things I want to do with my life and what sort of person I want to be. Maybe the people who were surrounding me were pulling me back in some way. I now believe I have to find other people, with similar hopes, dreams and pursuits in life, so that they will drag me with them in their journey. I haven´t found anybody yet, so maybe that´s why I chose to start this happy loner blog, but I believe I will find them eventually. On the meantime, the social networks are a good place to find people who are on the same train as you.

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So what do I want to achieve in 2014? Happiness.  As simple as that? Yes, and what is happiness then? Happiness is just living everyday with love, enthusiasm and hope. There is no recipe for this, nothing assures you that if you win 1 billion dollars, or if you marry, or if you have a kid, you will reach happiness. Happiness is just there, in the everyday living.  I believe that all of us are here on this earth with a great purpose on our shoulders. I don´t believe in simple lives, we must make sure; we make ours as exciting and risk-taking as possible. Risks are really good and a bit of craziness as well.  And when I mean craziness, I´m not talking about mental illnesses, I´m talking about those little moments in our daily routines, when we feel free, when we decide sing high aloud a song while driving, when we decide to dance in the shower, or just when we decide to take classes of Bulgarian, learn to play the trombone, or decide to travel to Indonesia.  Happiness is just beside us, we just need to make it part of our lives! Happy holidays for everybody and the happiest 2014 ever!


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BUSY LIVES ARE THE BEST!!!

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So this last month has been chaotic for me… Yep, I know, I haven’t written anything here in this period of time… What was I doing? Well just creating an online virtual store, working full time as tech writer, preparing a bachelorette party, translating some documents and the list could go for ages…

But actually, this has been a very, VERY good month; it was all chaos but very fulfilling. I may not have achieved something big and I may be in diapers with the online virtual store, but still, things are getting accomplished little by little.

And I even found that I want to start other projects as well, I can´t help it, I´m a constant project machine… I never get bored; there is no easy weekend or peaceful resting time… Yesterday, for example, I decided to give me a break, I switched off the computer at around 7:00 pm and decided to turn on the TV to catch a movie and just do nothing. I caught a very nice one: “Valentine´s Day” (I´m not that romantic but anyway…), but whenever there were commercial breaks I would find myself without knowing what to do…. How funny is that?… I usually watch TV while the laptop is on, or I have my tablet or cell phone near me to check stuff at the same time… I felt like I was not being productive enough with my time…. Is that lame? I really don´t know, and it wasn´t like I was disconnecting myself from the electronic world, I was in front of a good piece of electronic device: the TV!!!

Anyway, I finally got it, I LOVE multi-tasking, I LOVE being busy; I feel that I have the chance to do so many things in one day. And this is not about dependence on technology, I really enjoy doing other physical activities such as sports, dance and shopping (come on I´m a girl, who cannot love shopping?). So I guess that just watching TV was too “easy and so simple” for me…

So get the chance to BUSY YOURSELF, enjoy every day at the very BEST, do as MANY THINGS as you can, go to bed feeling exhausted but feeling that you made THE MOST OF YOUR DAY… life is so short… do you want to let it go WITHOUT DOING MUCH? 

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From Nomadic Matt blog: How to Deal with Unsupportive Friends and Family

This time I would like to post this “post” from Nomadic Matt blog, one of the coolest guys I´ve ever read on the online travel community. This post “got me” so bad because I know that most of the people who want to have a nomadic life style, like myself,  won´t always have the support from their friends or family. So please enjoy, click on the title above and read it!


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THE TRUTH OF A LONER THAT WRITES BLOGS…

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I actually had more trouble this time to come up with a topic for a post this week. I’ve been kind of absorbed and focused with my “virtual store” entrepreneurship, for those who have read my previous blog where I commented a little bit of a personal business…

Anyway, I´ve been bombarded with emails and webinars on how to make profits from your blog and how to attract thousands of followers to it, by curiosity I read a couple of them and actually attended to one good webinar. It all seemed great, but today while I was trying to come up with an idea for a post for this week, I actually realized that, besides “how to make your blog profitable”, most of the people who write blogs, do it because “they love to write”; they love to tell their stories, they love to tell their experiences, their thoughts, their advices.  The true bloggers actually feel like this and they seek to know other bloggers, read their blogs, share their thoughts, and comment on their posts, because at the end, we love the idea of sharing with others, advising others, feeling like we know those bloggers in some way, and feeling like maybe we have gained some friends out there.

Most of the blogs I follow, I do, because I love how they write, and I am very interested in what they have to say. I love to give advice when I can, and I feel excited when they take into account that advice.

So where is the money in it? I´m not saying that making money from blogs is wrong, but if there is no sentiment in your blog or in your blogging life style, then it´s just an empty URL full of ads and traps for getting money from people. There has to be something more than just profits… So for all these webinars and emails that I have received, you missed the “passion and sentiment of writing blogs” section, that first! and then you could think of income opportunities… but you can´t miss the first part! 

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And for the loners out there like me, this is more important, do blogging because you like it and because you feel a connection with your followers. There is nothing more joyful than sharing ideas and thoughts with our “virtual friends”… It keeps us centered and energized to follow our goals, and in some way a sense of belongness (I made up that word :) )

 

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